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November 24, 2009



Good luck. It hurts us most when we hold on to the anger and hurt. You both deserve much love and happiness!


Good luck.

Not that my advise matters, or that you will listen but there are three parts to a marriage. You, Him and God. If you picture a triangle with God at the top. As long as the two of you are working toward him, you naturally gravitate toward each other as the triangle shrinks.

For what it is worth, that analogy has made my marriage stay in perspective and reminded me to give 100%. Marriage is 100%, not 50/50.

I don't pretend to understand what you have been through, nor would I dare tell you "It's easy just do what I do...." {bah} anyone who would tell you that with a straight face is ignorant and clueless.

I wish you luck, marriage is work.

Can I leave you a quote? (Of course I can....hahaha)

“Marriage requires a high degree of tolerance, and some of us need to cultivate that attribute. I have enjoyed these words of Jenkins Lloyd Jones, which I clipped from the newspaper some years ago. Said he:
“There seems to be a superstition among many thousands of our young [men and women] who hold hands and smooch in the drive-ins that marriage is a cottage surrounded by perpetual hollyhocks to which a perpetually young and handsome husband comes home to a perpetually young and [beautiful] wife. When the hollyhocks wither and boredom and bills appear the divorce courts are jammed. …
“Anyone who imagines that bliss [in marriage] is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he has been robbed.
“[The fact is] most putts don’t drop. Most beef is tough. Most children grow up to be just people. Most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration. Most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. …
“Life is like an old-time rail journey—delays, sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling bursts of speed.
“The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride”

-Gordon B. Hinckley
Nov 1997


Thanks, Lisa:)

Aaron...that is where a good bit of the issue lies. Only one of us believes in God so the triangle analogy won't work for us.


good luck....i hope you can find a way for both of you. love truly is worth it, hang in there, love ya!


Hey, there.... a watched pot never boils. I watched daily when you weren't boiling. I stopped watching and now look? TWO POSTS! I'm glad you are back.

I'm glad that you are going through that book. I will praying for you.

I know that the "triangle" doesn't really work, yet. Just because he doesn't believe in God, does not mean that God doesn't exist. Just keep doing what you know to do. Don't try to do God's job. Take time for prayer and let God know all of your hurts. Don't worry about hurting God's feelings.... you can't. If you are mad at Him, let Him know. Only when you TOTALLY let go of what you can't do, can God come in and take over.

Marriage is work, but it is also blessed. If you honor your husband and God, things will work out the way they are supposed to.

I will be praying for you.


I love you Dawn. You can DO this. It won't be easy and it won't be painless, but you've already taken the hardest step. You are such a strong person and a wonderful woman. You can come through this on the other side and I promise you that your marriage will be better for it.

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